21 September 2005

Sania's skirt (or blouse or whatever)

I was chatting to my mom a couple of days ago, and during the course of the conversation, she mentioned that Sania Mirza was doing so well. And I think some people have nothing better to do, commenting about her dress, mom said.

And on the internet this morning, I came across the same thing. Only, something that made be feel better about the whole dumb episode.

A poet, a Muslim poet, btw, has put people in their place by asking them to pay more attention to Sania's game rather than her dress. Nigahen unki dress par nahi balki unke khel pe honi chahiye, he is quoted as saying. Was he ever right there. Some people have one track (and I daresay dirty) minds.

And he is quoted as also having said I request elders not to object on what Sania wears but to pray for the girl who has brought recognition to India by becoming a part of world's top 40 women tennis players. Couldn't have put it better myself.

Why and how is it that people always miss the wood for the trees? Here is this girl doing so well and doing the Indian pride so much good and all some people can talk about is her dress.

And why is it that always, but always, in these cases, the people doing all the complaining are male? It will always be these kinds of people who justify (and have justified) rape, saying the female in question was dressed 'provocatively'. Makes me sick to my very core!

I have nothing personal against such people but I really think they should move to the 21st century. It's the middlies and oldies who still can't adapt (I may be wrong there), in most cases. Whether they live in India or abroad, their expectations from the women (whether outside their home or in it) are unrealistic and unjustified. Sania's skirt is just a case in exmaple.

Whether is is their wife's dress or haircut or Sania's skirt, there are still many old fogies who can't and won't move ahead.

Moving ahead? And what would that mean? Definitely not to the level of Western females, in most cases (although our filmi heroines dress even more scantily and we do accept that). The dividing line between fashion and 'decency' is very thin and overstepping it always has negative vibrations.

But in Sania's case, if her dress is inappropriate for the tennis court, do they want her to maybe wear a sari or salwar and play tennis? Perhaps they would even prefer her to wear a burqha over it and play. That way, she probably won't even be able to see which way she is hitting the ball. But seriously, who knows what goes on in these people's heads?

This sensible poet Manzar, also said that the protest aganst Sania's dress code would be justified if the tennis star went to an Islamic Conference or a religious programme in an improper attire. Once again, he is right. If she went to the mosque or a mandir in her skirt, it's a no-no. Similarly, if she went to the tennis courts in her traditional dresss......how pathetic we would look on the international stage!

As some sporty guy from MP said, it is now time to encourage her and not criticise her so that she achieves the target to enter into the list of world's top 10 woman tennis players. Attaboy. I hope the old foggies were reading that in the newspaper...

I look at it this way: my mother is 60 + and has been brought up in a very conservative atmosphere, but she thinks Sania is doing great. That's because she's always been pretty tolerant and more than that, has a very strong sense of India and national pride. So when she can, why can't people of her generation do the same? And what's the problem any of the other generatons have, if at all? It's time to leave the Dark Ages behind.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree with your comments. Why can't people be a bit more flexible in their views about other people.

Anonymous said...

Yup, funny how people focus on all these stupid things instead of promoting/recongnizing talent. I watched her game against Sharapova, and was obviously very proud to see an Indian there - she has come this far, of course I hope she goes much further, but man, it feels good to see an Indian there.

As for those who have nothing better to do than comment on her dress.. oh well, who cares for their worthless comments? Three cheers to Sania and her game, and hope she reaches greater heights.

Vidya

Shammi said...

Orthodox viewpoints come from people who believe too much in their religion and its prescribed constraints. Not all of them are going to advocate the death of whoever they think is breaking those religious rules - thank goodness. As long as they only voice their disapproval (and dont take it to violent or harmful lengths), they have every right to say what they like.

This sort of mindset is not limited to Islam, for sure, and certainly there's never going to be a shortage of comments that annoy the more broad-minded (or less religious?) folks of any religion. The only thing to do is ignore them and their views.

lakshmi said...

Hi lakshmi! My sun sign is also gemini.

Castor aka Kiwilax said...

Gayathri,

I agree. Some flexibility is called for here.

Castor aka Kiwilax said...

Vidhu,

True, the best way is to avoid these comemnts altogether.

Shyam,

While you've taken this to the death-threat level, my view is this: even if they want to comment, can they not in national interests, let it pass? It isn't everyday that you get a female Indian coming into the top 100 players even, leave alone the top 40! Ignoring them is all very well, but it is a passice reaction. It is the root of the problem (in this case, attitude) that needs to be tackled.

Castor aka Kiwilax said...

Welcome to you, fellow Lakshmi and fellow Gemini. How did you come by my blog?

lakshmi said...

Came from sowmya's blog.

Shammi said...

The death-threat level was for emphasis. :) Do you REALLY think that orthodox folks will set aside their religious convictions in order to cheer on a female sports person who's - gasp - wearing short skirts? Good luck trying to get the oldies' attitude to change when there are so many younger people who are just as prejudiced.

Anonymous said...

Yup Shyam, I agree with you fully.. you cannot change the mindset of such people - that's why I have realized that it's best not to get worked up about their comments, because such people never ever change... remember I had blogged about something similar? - The poor girl was assaulted by a police constable and all that these people could think about was that women nowadays are not dressing appropriately.
vid

Castor aka Kiwilax said...

Shyam:
I do agree that some of the younger ones are pretty pathetic, attitude-wise. NO, I don't think orthodox people will set aside their views, but there's no harm in trying;)

Castor aka Kiwilax said...

Vid:
While changing certain outlooks is not possible, sitting back passively w/o doing anything is not nice at all. Even worse in fact. It just needs a different catalyst for all of us. It was that police consatable incident for you. For me, this is it. So on and so forth....